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VLOG: STORYTIME! **REVERSE RACISM** – Riding the Bus in Newark with Red Hair and White Skin


VLOG: FAT and ANOREXIC at the same time??? Being Plus size with Eating Disorders


Hip Hop Workout with Curvy and Curious


CurvyAndCurious.com is showing you that your workout does NOT have to be boring at the gym. Dance is good for the soul and a great way to stay curvy AND fit!

Submit your idea of a FUN workout as a response to our workout inspiration! Let’s spread the word that big girls still got it!

Song: Water Dance – Christ Porter ft. Pitbull

VIDEO BLOG: Bra Fitting, Reviews, and Advice for Plus Size Gals


If you read our articles on Shapewear and Bras, get ready for the FULL CUP of tea to spill! Emilie gives you the scoop on measuring your size, and how to find the best fitting bra for your needs. Watch the Video below and tell send in your feedback and ideas!

I Gave Up on Plus Size Modeling because….


I recently posted the following message to the public on my Facebook page before I unpublished the fan page for Curvy and Curious.

If you’ve been deleted off of my friends list, you probably either a) think you have what it takes to be a model but never will be; or b) run or take part of some sort of scam “magazine” or “troupe” catering to plus size models, tricking these girls into thinking they have something.

For years I let people sweet talk me into thinking I had what it takes, only to be looked at as thirsty, being asked to do anything and everything for FREE! I participated in runway shows put together so badly it was EMBARRASSING to even put on my resume, and met people who have called me any and every word referring to “white b***ch” (but only behind my back). I’ve publicized designers that then pass me over when the paid work comes in… Been spoken down to because of my race, and been buttered up by nearly every grimey “businessman” I’ve come across.

What I learned in 2014: DON’T follow your heart. DON’T live broke but do what YOU’RE GOOD AT and what pays the bills! If you’re not getting paid to wear clothes you’re not a model. If you’re over a size 16 you will most likely never be a model. Just freaking deal with it! It’s disgusting seeing women in their 30’s and 40’s spending every penny they have on modeling classes. HAH!

Discover what you’re good at, don’t let other people tell you what you’re good at to make their pockets fatter.

I apologize to my readers for falling off the grid, but I must say I prefer life out of the public eye, as I am now honing my knowledge of the modeling industry by working behind the scenes, building my skills behind the camera as a photographer and videographer.

Though my interest in modeling has faded, I am still a curvy girl in a big world, and plus size modeling has been the hot topic of 2015, with models like Ashley Graham getting an editorial spread in Sports Illustrated: Swimsuit Edition, and most notably, the infamously emo, tattooed up size 22 blogger/model we all love, Tess Munster, has been signed to MiLK Management (I can’t even count how many times I’ve submitted to them… *sigh*).
The way I see it, the more that these astonishing bigger beauties are nearly breaking the Internet, the more girls are being fed false hopes of becoming a plus-size model. I came across This article on Ravishly.com the other day which made me feel like I’m not the only realist out there among a sea of wanna-be’s. Let me quote one of my favorite paragraphs from the article:

“But I have to admit something: Tess Holliday’s gorgeous face intimidates me. There is no way, short of wearing countless layers of makeup and spending hours at a salon, adding perfect lighting to every place in the world where I might be present, that I could ever look anything like that. If I aspired to beauty like this, I would forgo a lot of precious time and energy to fall very very short.

When I see Tess boast #effyourbeautystandards, it doesn’t mean what everyone else seems to think it means. She’s a professional model, perfectly coiffed right down to her eyebrows. Slathered in makeup with the doe eyes and pouting mouth. To me, this is a contradiction.”

Well, Tess. This is how #EffYOURbeautystandards:
The Writer: Emilie Alpert Left: NO makeup, hair not done. Right: Editorial Photoshoot (MUA: Christina Morales)

The Writer: Emilie Alpert
Left: NO makeup, hair not done.
Right: Editorial Photoshoot (MUA: Christina Morales)

Every time I go on Facebook I feel like I am being brainwashed to think that the fashion industry is finally accepting plus-size models. Note to world: THIS IS NOT REAL LIFE. The term “Plus-size” is still absolutely taboo when it comes to creditable fashion houses, fellow models, photographers, and designers (with the exception of custom made gowns for celebrities like Gabourey Sidibe, memba that?).
We’ve all read article after article that Sports Illustrated: Swimsuit Edition 2015 will be featuring “plus” model, Ashley Graham and her #CurvesInBikinis movement. Check out the video below… it’s definitely HOT, but…
….How many of you read the fine print?

“SEE OUR AD IN SPORTS ILLUSTRATED SWIMSUIT ISSUE”

…. and learned that Ms. Graham was hired to shoot an ad campaign for SwimsuitsForAll.com, who then PURCHASED ad space in SIThis means that Sports Illustrated never actually sought out a plus size bikini model, just that one was presented to them and they are following the trend of “thick women” (I.e, Kim Kardashian clan, Amber Rose, etc.) being the center of pop culture. My question is, why didn’t they feature the Fatkini as well????
I have a special project that in the works that will cover how the public feels about size….. This article is certainly TO BE CONTINUED as there is much more debate of what sizes are are acceptable and what is not.
In the mean time, Listen to Nicki Minaj’s new banger, “Only” and tell me what you think of the lyrics….

Curvy Girls To Follow On Instagram


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They are models, designers, bloggers but also know how to combine good business and pleasure, and their Instagram are the proof: this is the profile of the curvy girls to follow.

It starts with the most popular, Gabifresh,  designer of Fatkini, real fetish curvy overseas. A photograph taken on the set like Gabi and in his free time with colleagues, capture moments in a relaxed backstage or her decision to look at an event.

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Gabifresh on Instagram Gabifresh on Instagram

 Stephanie Zwicky, curvy French blogger, like to find the funny side of each day, her Instagram is full of playful images, interesting details, tips about beauty: in short, all those moments that make life less boring.

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Stephanie Zwicky on Instagram Stephanie Zwicky on Instagram

Stephanie Zwicky on Instagram Stephanie Zwicky on Instagram

Margieplus is almost a trademark for that her look that distinguished her from her colleagues:…

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What’s “Ratchet”


We are constantly striving to keep up with whats fresh. Unfortunately, along with the fad of “twerking” has come along the word “ratchet.” Last time I checked, a ratchet was part of a wrench, right? Not anymore.

UrbanDictionary.com defines “Ratchet” as:

A diva, mostly from urban cities and ghettos, that has reason to believe she is every mans eye candy. Unfortunately, she’s wrong.

Typical signs to beware of include, but are not limited to:

  • BLARES anything by Drake, 2Chainz, Nicki Minaj, Gucci Mane, Waka Flocka, Lil Wayne, T-Pain, Cali Swag District, or any other garbage entertainment rapper
  • rowdily quotes “lyrics” from aforementioned artists
  • has a weave reminiscent of a bird’s nest after a tempest hit the tree it was in, and is dyed at least thrice 
  • wears torn leggings/stalkings (mostly of the fishnet variety), unpolished 8″ heels (or higher, depending on how God-awful they look), fitted jean jackets (to accent the blubber ’round their arms and stomach), and 4 layers of caked on make-up to go clubbing
  • repeatedly use ludicrous terms such as “YOLO”, “swag”, “boost”, “beaking”, “doe”, “really”, “naw”, “actually”, “twerk”, “coaster”, “dagga”, etc., to make a valid statement when they speak 
  • have side bangs, despite having incredibly small-ass foreheads to support them
  • are commonly overweight and are mind-numbingly stupid; a safe assumption to make would be saying they’re uneducated (as if they could pass the 4th grade)

 

After attending many parties and clubs, mostly in NYC, I’m seeing more and more “Ratchetness” with the growing acceptance of size. Ladies used to feel like they needed to cover up or couldn’t wear tight dresses if they have curves – these days are no longer. No matter how acceptable you may think your wardrobe is, you need to remember that you are a woman with curves and need some help keeping those curves in place! You can wear a short skirt or slutty dress, but wear tights (ahem, not fishnets), a bra, and shapewear. Come on, do you really want to look like this?

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Twerk away ladies, just make sure there are no wardrobe malfunctions!

BTW, who said fat girls cant twerk? GET ‘EM GIRLS!

Stay Curvy and Keep Curious

Letter from a Reader – Why Weight?


Dear Curvy And Curious,

Recently I lost 5-10 pounds. I wasn’t eating healthy, I wasn’t working out, I was just stressed out of my mind and the weight just fell off. With my body type, 5-10 pounds is a recognizable difference. All my friends, my family, and acquaintances commented about it.

I’m sick to my stomach over it. All these people, and there has been many, are trying to compliment me. What they are doing, unbeknownst to them, are judging my weight, saying essentially, “you look good now, better than you did before.” I think more people should be aware of their comments – what they mean and the effect they can have. Once I gain this weight back, which I undoubtedly will because I did not lose it in a controlled healthy way, will they remark that I have gained weight? Of course not. Commenting that someone gained weight is wrong because it is a judgement on their bodies. But commenting that someone has lost weight? Oh that’s just fine.

My sister has recovered from an eating disorder that nearly killed her. When she first started losing the weight, I was among these people, “Melissa*, you look great! Keep up the good work!” blah blah blah.. I didn’t know the “good work” was her vomiting after her every meal. Every comment I made to her, and the comments by other people towards her, encouraged her, and the direct focus on her weight fueled her insecurity, her mental disease, putting weight as the topic of discussion. I have learned from this experience never to remark on someone’s shape, and to try avoid looking at their outward appearance entirely. Corney, but it’s the soul that matters.

People make their comments about my weight, “Oh wow! You look like you lost a lot of weight! So skinny!” and I nod, I pity them..and I try not to let them get into my head. I never say thank you, because although they do not mean me harm, this is not a compliment.

I had not weighed myself in years. When I did, it was sporadic. Now, despite my best efforts to keep these people out of my head, I notice I am checking the scale, noticing the number.. the one pound up or down. Because all of these remarks.. I know what people first notice about me. I did not care about gaining the weight back, but now……do I? I do well and overall don’t care, but the judgement and continuous focus and remarks have made it difficult.

I lost it in an unhealthy way.. and society has told us that how you lose weight doesn’t matter.. as long as you are thinner.

I wanted to share this with you because I admire the work you have done on yourself and the work you have done for others. This is not a “fat” problem, or a “skinny” problem we deal with. Making remarks/judgement on appearances is just plain wrong, and I wish more people would see this. Look more into the eyes of people rather than their physical appearance. I have a healthy mindset, but if I did not these peoples remarks would drive me into an anxious and dangerous life style, the way it did my sister.

Food for thought. Thank you for your contributions in this field.. more people should be opening their minds and accepting who they are.

 

Thanks for sharing your story of confidence and finding yourself. This is what Curvy And Curious is about! Hang in there girl, you’re never alone.

 

Stay Curvy and Keep Curious

 

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The Best Shapewear for Fat Girls! (Caution: Curves Ahead)


Check out our Plus Size Bra Fitting and Review Video Blog here!

I have come to learn that one of the most important, yet most DIFFICULT part of being plus size is having to deal with making the fat look like curves. If not done properly, this could go horribly wrong. The trick? SHAPEWEAR!

No matter how big or small you are, beauty is pain at times. Currently I am wearing a pair off spanxs so tight I can hardly breathe! But after you get used to wearing Shapewear and making it part of your daily routine, you’ll learn some tricks to make it a lot easier.

  • Shapewar Tank tops & Camisoles are a lot easier (and sexier) to wear than high waist briefs, and they still cover your ass when you bend over. A must-have alternative to Spanx if you plan on hooking up tonight!
  • Spanx have a built in hole in the crotch so you don’t have to take them off to tinkle!
  • Bras can double as Shapewear as well – side and back smoothing, bridal corsets, and minimizer bras are made to shape you better.
  • Waist cinchers (like Squeem) not only give you an hourglass figure, but improve posture too.

When I was in high school I was too scared to wear shapewear, thinking… “How can I go to school looking sloppy fat one day and sexy curvy the next without making it obvious that there’s Shapewear under here?” There is no easy way. You can either start off a little at a time, or go balls to the wall and just do it! I started off slow, and now am a Shapewear junkie.

Here are MY spandex staples:

Best Brands & Where to buy:

  • Spanx -When it comes to undergarments, Spanx is the leader of the pack. Affordable, durable, and practical.
  • Squeem – Gives you unbelievable curves! no, really – unbelievable – as in, too good to be true and its pretty obvious when you wear one. But damn sexy anyways. Better for big booty girls, rather than us muffin top chicks.
  • Lipo In A Box sold by QVC and on Amazon.com – The quality is by far, the best – this coming from someone who has tried them all. Though pricey, totally worth the money. Goes up to size 2X (they stretch!)

My Choices:

  • Camisole: Lipo in a Box Long Tank (original fabric) – I have to admit, I wear this garment almost every day. When I first took it out of the package it was so tiny, but you step into it like a swimsuit and BOOM! Takes off 20 lbs. Its durable fabric has held up for probably a year now, and every time I wash and dry it, it shrinks back to its baby shirt size. It doesn’t ride up, so no adjusting all day. Flattering neckline fits under most shirts without noticing.
  • Bottoms:  Spanx Higher Power Brief –  Again, you get what you pay for – High Quality. Great to wear under a dress , too tight jeans, anything! I avoid the thigh slimming version because it seems to cut me off mid thigh and create some unlovely lumps.

Hope this helps you ladies find the best shape for your body!

Stay Curvy and Keep Curious

 

Bullied for Being Fat? More like “The Fat Bully”


So it seems like all I hear about with teens these days (besides childhood obesity) is bullying. I always wonder to myself, “I was fat in high school, why don’t I feel like I was bullied.” I soon realized the answer: I was the bully.

Middle school was hard – I was bullied, but not for being fat. I was made fun of for having my own style. (Having pink hair at the age of 12 isn’t exactly traditional). I dressed “goth,” so some people spread rumors that I was smoking crack in 7th grade. Even though I wasn’t being harassed about my body, I was at my most insecure state in my life. I was too embarrassed to eat in the lunchroom because I didn’t want my boyfriend to see hos fat girlfriend eating…. anything. I would go hungry and then binge and purge. Though these internal behaviors were horribly unhealthy, I believe that the fact that people cared enough to make up these ridiculous stories, rather than bully me for being fat, helped me build my confidence for the future.

That future confidence took a while to set in. As puberty went on, I started cutting myself, smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol… anything to overshadow the fact that I was fat. I would have rather been viewed as a bad-ass than “the fat girl,” and it worked.

High school was freakin’ fantastic! Well, somewhat. I had a lot of friends, who were all fat chicks too (or felt fat). We would joke about being fat, share our fat girl problems, share clothes, it was fabulous. Having “Fatourage” (OK, I made that up) definitely was the key to building my self-confidence. Problem is – I built up a bit too much  and became a real bitch.

To the few haters our clique had, rather than letting them get me down, I would use my strength and intimidation to avoid being bullied. When the local punk rock band came out with a song called ‘Fat Chicks Suck’ that went viral, what did I do? I punched the kid in the face. What did he do? Made a website about me and how fat and annoying I am. All I could do was laugh, thinking, “Dumbass, I punched you in the fucking face. Who won this battle?”

That wasn’t the only time I used my size to intimidate others. On another occassion, a boy and his friends were yelling fat-insults to my best friend (why not me???) so what did I do? Caught him off-guard and put him in a choke hold in the stairwell, and explained to him that he had no idea what was coming to him if he kept fucking with us. Lets just say I didn’t hear a peep from him again.

So those are examples of what I would call “Defensive Bullying.” But in order to keep up my bad-ass reputation, I couldn’t just bully back. I had to pay it forward too. This wasn’t easy, considering I was the fattest girl in school. I look back now and think of some horrible things I did to people just to feel better about myself.

Here are my examples of my “Offensive Bullying

  • The only big girl not in our entourage was made fun of by the whole school. I would pretend to be her friend to get private dirt on her and spread it to the rest of the school. She told me she wore a size 18 and we made a huge deal about her size, while in the mean time, I was a size 22!

  • I broke up with a boy at school, and every time my friends and I saw him, we would call him “Goat” because of his beard and make Goat noises…. ok a litle funny but still mean.

  • We got mad at a member of our clique, hacked her MySpace, and replaced all of her photos with pictures of Mr. Ed (the talking horse) because she was made fun of for her teeth. How horrible is that?

I could go on and on, but I think those three are enough to show what an insecure bitch I was. Due to some personal troubles (totally unrelated to bulling), I ended up leaving school my junior year, started a career, and graduated early from night school. I work in the Human Service field, and have been since I was 17. Now my life is spent improving the lives of others rather than trying to ruin them. I think that removing myself from the “group mentality” by leaving school was a turning point, but it wasn’t until I was about 20 that I realized in order to be completely free from my ignorant, angry past, was to let go of my cohorts and star over, on my own.

Now I am a strong advocate for disabilities, mental illness, obesity, bullying, racism, and pretty much anything related to human rights. Bully turned Humanitarian. Who would’a thought?

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