I recently posted the following message to the public on my Facebook page before I unpublished the fan page for Curvy and Curious.
If you’ve been deleted off of my friends list, you probably either a) think you have what it takes to be a model but never will be; or b) run or take part of some sort of scam “magazine” or “troupe” catering to plus size models, tricking these girls into thinking they have something.
For years I let people sweet talk me into thinking I had what it takes, only to be looked at as thirsty, being asked to do anything and everything for FREE! I participated in runway shows put together so badly it was EMBARRASSING to even put on my resume, and met people who have called me any and every word referring to “white b***ch” (but only behind my back). I’ve publicized designers that then pass me over when the paid work comes in… Been spoken down to because of my race, and been buttered up by nearly every grimey “businessman” I’ve come across.
What I learned in 2014: DON’T follow your heart. DON’T live broke but do what YOU’RE GOOD AT and what pays the bills! If you’re not getting paid to wear clothes you’re not a model. If you’re over a size 16 you will most likely never be a model. Just freaking deal with it! It’s disgusting seeing women in their 30’s and 40’s spending every penny they have on modeling classes. HAH!
Discover what you’re good at, don’t let other people tell you what you’re good at to make their pockets fatter.
I apologize to my readers for falling off the grid, but I must say I prefer life out of the public eye, as I am now honing my knowledge of the modeling industry by working behind the scenes, building my skills behind the camera as a photographer and videographer.
“But I have to admit something: Tess Holliday’s gorgeous face intimidates me. There is no way, short of wearing countless layers of makeup and spending hours at a salon, adding perfect lighting to every place in the world where I might be present, that I could ever look anything like that. If I aspired to beauty like this, I would forgo a lot of precious time and energy to fall very very short.
When I see Tess boast #effyourbeautystandards, it doesn’t mean what everyone else seems to think it means. She’s a professional model, perfectly coiffed right down to her eyebrows. Slathered in makeup with the doe eyes and pouting mouth. To me, this is a contradiction.”
Yay! Summer is here! Slip n’ Slides, pool parties, summer concerts, tanning, hitting the beach with my…… oh shit.
… bathing suit [eeeeeep!]
When I was 13 and had shed some lbs., I tried on my first bikini. I’m not sure which was worse – the look of horror on my face or my baby fat on display in the mirror looking back at me. Settling for ugly one pieces, I always thought, “Maybe next year..” Well ladies, that year is here!
This was my first year really following Full Figure Fashion Week, and there seemed to be a big focus on swimwear of all kinds, but something new really caught the world’s eye. The Fatkini.
For this summer, bodacious blogger Gabby Gregg, aka GabiFresh, decided to start a BIG movement, and many mainstream designers followed – the FATKINI. You heard right – BIKINIS for FAT chicks. Unthinkable, right? Well take one look at these and reconsider:
Cute, right?? The high waist bottoms create a perfect hourglass and come up high enough to cover your belly insecurities (or in my case, belly stretch marks, ugh) and the bralets are very flattering. Different designers, make different rises, and some designs are slimming with black panels on the sides. Great for pear, triangle, rectangle, and hourglass figures – apples beware, unless you love your body the way it is and are ready to turn many heads at the beach (not in a good way). You DON’T want to end up like this:
MY tip: don’t buy online – go to the store and try it on. Bathing suits NEVER look the same on the hanger as they do on you, and they are usually non-returnable. When trying on, focus on what it does for your body (nips the waist, boobs look awesome, you feel sexy) rather than the “bad parts.” If you’re not comfortable with it, then don’t feel pressured to get one. Personally, I’m going to wait till next year to see if the style takes off, as well as what improvements they’ll make for next year. I’d love to have shapewear incorporated into the bottoms, and also more designs with a skirted bottom to hide the belly bulge.
My Curves And Curls has a fabulous guide to plus size swimwear and Fatkini shopping.
Stay curious and keep curvy. Happy Shopping!