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Branding: Just How Important is it?


If there is one most important thing I am learning about “the biz,” it’s branding.  For example, I am building my “brand” as Curvy And Curious. Whatever I post on this site represents my personality, my goals, dreams, etc. This site is then viewed all over the world. When I meet readers, they know a lot about my personality and even my secrets, because I chose to brand  this site, and myself, as REAL TALK.

Even though I am all about keeping it real, I am starting to learn that the industry revolves around being fake. Feeling down? Talk about it and it shows that you are weak. Feeling overwhelmed? “Oh, she can’t handle the pressure.” We all have feelings, so why aren’t we allowed  to voice them?

It just irks me that many people in the industry seem to care more about building a brand around a fake personality than to build a brand around your real self. I believe my realness is what sets me apart from other models and actresses. If being real ruins my brand, well so be it, but at least I’ll still have me.

Don’t lose yourself in your brand. Be you, be real, and be proud of who you are and what you do! The world is your runway, so rock it with your signature walk.

Keep Curvy and Stay Curious

Curvy Girl Spotlight of November: Ms. Candy J


This month’s Curvy Girl will be rocking the runway alongside Emilie Alpert, Founder of CurvyAndCurious.com! Watch out for these ladies on Saturday, November 9th, 2013 at the Evolution Of Curves NYC Finale Show for Haiti! Visit http://nyceofcurvesfinale.eventbrite.com for your tickets now!
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Name: Ms. Candy J.
Age: 23
Measurements: 40D-35.5-50
Location: Bronx, NY
Tell us a little bit about yourself?
I am an aspiring actress and model. I recently relocated to New York from Miami, FL. I’ve lived here for two months and I am just getting used to the big city. I love the entertainment industry and I am very much dedicated to making a lucrative career in modeling and acting. I have trained at Barbizon School of Modeling and Acting. I have experience as an extra in film, television, and commercial. I also love to sing, I would to see if there is a possibility of me making it in the music industry, but I know that I need to work on it a little more. I am planning on taking acting classes and vocal lessons to hone my craft and make myself more marketable.
What inspired you to get into modeling?
I’ve wanted to model since I was 13
What type of modeling have you done? (runway, glamour, print, etc)
Plus Size Fashion, Commercial, Runway, and Print
What are your likes and dislikes about modeling?
I dislike that there are so many limited opportunities for plus size models who are not 5’9″
I like the fact that so many aspiring plus size models are making the opportunity for themselves
Are you with any modeling agencies or teams?
I am the President of an up and coming modeling agency in South Florida, Star Plus Model. But I am not a part of any agency.
Appearance is a big factor in the fashion world.  What words would you use to describe your personal style?
I have a versatile personality, so when it comes to my style
What does Curvy and Curious mean to you?
Curvy and Curious, I love my curves and I want to see just how far I can make it in this industry
Where do you want to be 1 year from now in the modeling industry?
I want to be on the cover of Plus Model Magazine and I want to be the featured model in music videos and commercials
What type of advice have you been given that you would give to aspiring models?
I was once told that preparation plus opportunity equals success. So if you want to be a  model do your research and invest in yourself don’t wait for opportunities to come to you go out and find them.
Where can Curvy and Curious viewers see more of you?
Twitter: @MsModelBehavior
IG: MsModelBehavior22

Don’t Set Yourself up for Failure


We all have dreams, however, not many choose to go and chance them. Why not? Because there is so much risk of failure. Not only is there the risk failing your dream, but you may be scared to fail to support yourself financially, fail to give enough attention to those around you, or fail to complete other goals you’ve set out to accomplish. I, myself, have an enormous fear of failure…..so why the HELL did I decide to enter the entertainment business? I guess because my drive to succeed is stronger than my fear of failure.

When I decided to start modeling at 23, I already had six years of specialized training and experience in my field of work, and a career I was passionate about. When things didn’t work out at my last job, I decided I needed a change. I was burnt out and felt I had invested my entire early twenties in a career I was already at the top of, and I failed in the end. I made a decision to live out the rest of my twenties as if I’m, well, 20-something! Us millennialls are so driven to move up the ladder so fast, we seem to forget about our dreams and aspirations. 

Thehe re seems to be a snag in my “YOLO” plan. MONEY! A girl has to make a living while still building her resume doing student films and trade for print shoots to build up the resume and portfolio. With my professional skills, I was lucky enough to find a great part time job in my field of expertise. I (so far) have been able to balance the life in the entertainment business with my “day job” but have had to back out of professional opportunities in order to NOT set myself up for failure.

I know there will come a point in time where I will have to choose between my two passions – work, or “the biz.” Until then, I will keep taking one day at a time and hustle my way to the top!

 

keep curvy and stay curious

 

 

Work hard, Play hard? Yeah, right.


Hey Curvy Girls!

So I am at work thinking , “…should I go all the way to NYC for this audition tonight?” Or “should I bother with that photoshoot tomorrow?”

But at the same time, I’m asking myself, “why am I here at work instead of out doing what I love?” Good Question. Reason is – I am doing a buttload of money trying to break not the business. Let me break it down for you:

I had a horrible experience on a go-see for a model gig the other day. Once I made it to Manhattan, the only place I was allowed to park were  princely lots, so I spent the damn $30 to park because traffic had me running a whole hour late. Once I got there, she looked at my photos, resume, and measurements, and without saying a word, handed me pack my packet and told me I was too big for their line. Normally, I think, “eh, no biggie,” but this time, after all the trouble I went through, I broke down and cried out of frustration. Not because she said I was too fat, but because I had spent so much of my hard earned money and hard to come by free time on nothing.

Because of my anxiety, and the fact that I love so close to the city ( in NJ) I choose not to take the train or bus, but the cost isn’t much different. Currently with the number of auditions and bookings I get in NYC here is a breakdown of my modeling and acting related expenses:

  • Toll to NYC: $14 x (approx) 3 days per week: $42
  • Gas: $20 x (approx) 4 days per week: $80
  • Parking: Up to $30
  • Total Weekly Expenses to go on auditions and modeling gigs = roughly $150.

Of course, however, this does not include the cost of headshots and Comp Cards, event tickets, etc… So how is one supposed to become a model or actress and not live the starting artist” lifestyle? Not to mention the fact that in the last few months I have barely been home between work and auditions, and now it’s coming to a point where I must choose between my work and my play. I may not believe in a higher power, but if I am meant to be something big, it will happen soon. If not, then I guess it will be time to let go of my favorite hobby. Isn’t it a shame I can’t have my cake and eat it too??

Keep Curvy and Stay Curious

Overcoming Anxiety – Just Do It?


“Get over it.”

“Just do it.”

These are words I tell myself every day – unfortunately I don’t always listen. That is because I am one of the millions of people discretely struggling with an anxiety disorder. In my last post, I spoke a bit about my struggles with my body issues and Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD).  I will come out and say that I have Depression and Social Anxiety. There is a stigma in this country about mental illness, but sometimes the people, like myself, who hide it so well are the ones suffering the worst.  Anxiety disorders come in a range of specific diagnoses, but we all have from anxiety sometimes.

Do you get butterflies in your stomach before making a presentation at school or work? Do you feel like everyone is staring at you when you enter the cafeteria? Do you sweat bullets when you’re the center of attention?  I Do.

Socializing comes naturally to me, but deep down I am the most self conscious person I know. The reason I find this interesting is because I am more self-conscious of my personality than my looks. The silver lining in that is that I really am happy with who I am on the outside. The dark cloud is that I am not happy with who I am on the inside.

I was a social butterfly until I was about 20 years old, but I was able to push away my anxiety by drinking and partying.  Gradually the monster of depression crept up on me. I slowly started isolating myself.  I know that what really sent me into a downward spiral was my breakup, but the depression and anxiety were monsters deep inside just waiting for their chance to escape -and they took over.

A few years and many medication cocktails later – here I am.  I am a strong, confident woman, who is carrying a dark cloud, but I am not trying to hide it anymore.  I am pursuing modeling because I’m so confident in myself outwardly.  The problem is, when the anxiety takes over, sometimes my body will just not let me do things.  I’ve skipped countless casting calls and even turned down appearances because the thought of leaving the house terrifies me.  I’ve learned in the past few months that in order for me to be successful as a model I MUST learn how to break out of my comfort zone, which I have been stuck in for nearly five years.

I have actually been following through with my self improvement plan.  I have made friends.  The next step is allowing myself to spend time with them so I am not so withdrawn.  I am RSVPing to events and following through every time, because messing up once could be a career killer.  Now I’m booked for live events for the next two weeks.  When I’m thinking about it now, I get anxious, my stomach turns… But I will take it one day at a time.

I promise to myself and my readers to overcome this hurdle in my life, and show myself that I am stronger than I let myself be.

 

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‘Color Blind’ – A Campaign against Racism, Violence, and Discrimination


This is the promotional video for http://www.wearecolorblind.org/ – the #WeAreColorBlind is a campaign against racism, violence, and discrimination. All proceed go to support the Trayvon Martin Foundation.

(See me at 1:17) Glad to have been part of this great movement!

Follow @WeRColorBlind on Twitter and use hashtag #WeAreColorBlind to become part of the movement!

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