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Curvy Girl Spotlight of December: Tarina Rana’e


Name:  Tarina Rena’e 
Age:  29
Sizes: 38DD-35-47 / size 12-14
Location:  Newport News, VA

Tell us a little bit about yourself?

I was born in Savannah Georgia and spent one term in the US army. I am a mother of 3 boys who are my life. I’ve always wanted to be a model since as far back as I can remember but although I was small enough for regular modeling, I wasn’t tall enough. My favorite color is pink.

What inspired you to get into modeling?

After giving birth and being diagnosed with PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) I struggled with self esteem issues for years. Now I look at modeling as an opportunity to be an inspiration to every day women who may have self esteem issues or feel that because they aren’t a certain size or height they can’t model. If I can do it, so can you!
What type of modeling have you done?
 I have done runway and print.

What are your likes and dislikes about modeling?

I love the transformation process, traveling and meeting wonderful people.
I dislike the separation and discrimination of “Plus” and “regular” models.
Are you with any modeling agencies or teams?
I am a part of the Virginia Full Figured Fashion Week (Vf3w) team and I work alone.
What words would you use to describe your personal style?
 Eclectic.
What is your guilty pleasure when it comes to fashion?
Shoes and accessories

What does Curvy and Curious mean to you?

 C-onfidently U-nderstanding a R-adiant V-oluptuous Y-ou with endless possibilities!
What type of advice have you been given that you would give to aspiring models?
Be confident in yourself and always try regardless of the odds.
Where can Curvy and Curious viewers see more of you?
Www.facebook.com/tarinarenae
Www.modelmayhem.com/tarinarenae
Www.instagram.com/tarina_renae
Twitter: @ga_p33ch
The Lawrence Brother’s hair and fashion show Dec 8
Glam Gurls Inc Holiday Affair Dec 21
Metro Style Inc April 2014
and much more to come!

Letter from a Reader – Why Weight?


Dear Curvy And Curious,

Recently I lost 5-10 pounds. I wasn’t eating healthy, I wasn’t working out, I was just stressed out of my mind and the weight just fell off. With my body type, 5-10 pounds is a recognizable difference. All my friends, my family, and acquaintances commented about it.

I’m sick to my stomach over it. All these people, and there has been many, are trying to compliment me. What they are doing, unbeknownst to them, are judging my weight, saying essentially, “you look good now, better than you did before.” I think more people should be aware of their comments – what they mean and the effect they can have. Once I gain this weight back, which I undoubtedly will because I did not lose it in a controlled healthy way, will they remark that I have gained weight? Of course not. Commenting that someone gained weight is wrong because it is a judgement on their bodies. But commenting that someone has lost weight? Oh that’s just fine.

My sister has recovered from an eating disorder that nearly killed her. When she first started losing the weight, I was among these people, “Melissa*, you look great! Keep up the good work!” blah blah blah.. I didn’t know the “good work” was her vomiting after her every meal. Every comment I made to her, and the comments by other people towards her, encouraged her, and the direct focus on her weight fueled her insecurity, her mental disease, putting weight as the topic of discussion. I have learned from this experience never to remark on someone’s shape, and to try avoid looking at their outward appearance entirely. Corney, but it’s the soul that matters.

People make their comments about my weight, “Oh wow! You look like you lost a lot of weight! So skinny!” and I nod, I pity them..and I try not to let them get into my head. I never say thank you, because although they do not mean me harm, this is not a compliment.

I had not weighed myself in years. When I did, it was sporadic. Now, despite my best efforts to keep these people out of my head, I notice I am checking the scale, noticing the number.. the one pound up or down. Because all of these remarks.. I know what people first notice about me. I did not care about gaining the weight back, but now……do I? I do well and overall don’t care, but the judgement and continuous focus and remarks have made it difficult.

I lost it in an unhealthy way.. and society has told us that how you lose weight doesn’t matter.. as long as you are thinner.

I wanted to share this with you because I admire the work you have done on yourself and the work you have done for others. This is not a “fat” problem, or a “skinny” problem we deal with. Making remarks/judgement on appearances is just plain wrong, and I wish more people would see this. Look more into the eyes of people rather than their physical appearance. I have a healthy mindset, but if I did not these peoples remarks would drive me into an anxious and dangerous life style, the way it did my sister.

Food for thought. Thank you for your contributions in this field.. more people should be opening their minds and accepting who they are.

 

Thanks for sharing your story of confidence and finding yourself. This is what Curvy And Curious is about! Hang in there girl, you’re never alone.

 

Stay Curvy and Keep Curious

 

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Don’t Set Yourself up for Failure


We all have dreams, however, not many choose to go and chance them. Why not? Because there is so much risk of failure. Not only is there the risk failing your dream, but you may be scared to fail to support yourself financially, fail to give enough attention to those around you, or fail to complete other goals you’ve set out to accomplish. I, myself, have an enormous fear of failure…..so why the HELL did I decide to enter the entertainment business? I guess because my drive to succeed is stronger than my fear of failure.

When I decided to start modeling at 23, I already had six years of specialized training and experience in my field of work, and a career I was passionate about. When things didn’t work out at my last job, I decided I needed a change. I was burnt out and felt I had invested my entire early twenties in a career I was already at the top of, and I failed in the end. I made a decision to live out the rest of my twenties as if I’m, well, 20-something! Us millennialls are so driven to move up the ladder so fast, we seem to forget about our dreams and aspirations. 

Thehe re seems to be a snag in my “YOLO” plan. MONEY! A girl has to make a living while still building her resume doing student films and trade for print shoots to build up the resume and portfolio. With my professional skills, I was lucky enough to find a great part time job in my field of expertise. I (so far) have been able to balance the life in the entertainment business with my “day job” but have had to back out of professional opportunities in order to NOT set myself up for failure.

I know there will come a point in time where I will have to choose between my two passions – work, or “the biz.” Until then, I will keep taking one day at a time and hustle my way to the top!

 

keep curvy and stay curious

 

 

Thrift Store Swagg Plus Size Clothing Exchange was a Success!


On October 12th, 2013, CurvyAndCurious held it’s first event, “Thrift Store Swagg” Plus Size Clothing Swap and Runway show at Pioneers Bar in NYC. The event was a lot of fun – Full figured women from all over brought bags of gorgeous clothes to exchange for new ones! I know I’ve been enjoying my new wardrobe. Ose (Uh-Seh) and Mad! Couture showed some fabulous looks on our gorgeous models (more pics coming soon), and I even previewed my line pf upcycled t-shirts 🙂 This is a must-repeat event! Check out the photos by Turf Photography below!

Fashion With A Passion Fundraiser Photos


Hey Curvy Girls!

I was blessed enough to work with Unique Blend Models last weekend at the Fashion with a Passion Show. Take the time to check out the amazing photos by Rick Jones and Doug Swaim!

RJones Photography:

http://rjonesphotographyllc.smugmug.com/Fashion-With-a-Passion-Fund/i-xxNq6v7/A

 

Doug Swaim:

http://www.nfphotography.com/f111430186

 

Here are my shots 🙂


FASHION WITH A PASSION Fundraiser Fashion Show

Order tickets via Eventbrite:
http://ubmfashionwithapassion-efbevent.eventbrite.com/

Tickets are $25.00 general admission and $40.00 VIP

Ladydoves Self Enrichment Organization and Unique Blend Models together with their friends Fashion Avenue News Magazine presents Fashion with a Passion Fundraiser to be held on October 5, 2013 at the NY Hotel Pennsylvania located at 401 7th avenue (at 33rd street), New York, New York. This wonderful event is to benefit our scholarship fundraiser which will assist underprivileged high school graduates in their goal to pursue their college education.

The event will include a fashion show that provides an entertaining and inspiring demonstration of models showcasing todays high-fashion designs with musical entertainment from local artists along with vending opportunities during the show.

TIME: 6:00PM-10:00PM

SPONSORS: Occasions Banquet & Catering Hall, Diva Dynasty Magazine

DESIGNERS: Juul Couture, Douglas Says, Dee Couture, Lonie Cisco, Azure-Marie, D. Diamond by Daniel Kydd, Kianna Marie Tracy, FJC, RicLamar and Ashley Stewart

ASHLEY STEWART collection will be on the runway.

PHOTOGRAPHERS: Rick Jones, Doug Swaim

MEDIA SPONSORS:
Ernest Jackson, CEO of MNS Media…StricklyForThePromo, Fashion Avenue News Magazine

MUAS: Yvette Hunter-Bennett, LabelleLadiva Enterprises LLC, Alice Young (DivaEye Studio, Glam Squad AC, Iesha Nicole Mua

PERFORMERS: La SoStereo, Alyssa-Marie Prendergast

AFTER PARTY LOCATION WILL BE ANNOUNCED!


Get Your Tickets Now! – PLUS SIZE Thrift Trade

Come trade your best used outfits for better ones at “Thrift Store Swag!” There will be a Clothing Swap, runway show, Happy hour specials, Live DJ, Photography, and more!

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PLUS SIZE Clothing Exchange & Fashion Event!

I am hosting my first clothing exchange!

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Date/Time:
October 12th, 2013
1pm – 6pmLocation:
Pioneers Bar NYC
138 w. 29th (b/t 6th & 7th) New York, NYHAPPY HOUR SPECIALS ALL DAY FOR PARTY GO-ERS!!!Admission: $20

Contact: Emilie Alpert & Tahirah Sharif

Here’s how it works:

For every item of clothing you donate, you get to take a brand new piece home with you! The more you bring, the more you take!

This is not only a clothing exchange and shopping day, but also a great place to network, meet people, party your ass off!

We Plan to have some awesome Vintage & Retro style designers give us a live show!!

Show up at ON TIME by 2pm please so we can swap all sizes

Sizes 12 and up only!

**PLEASE BRING CLEAN, FASHIONABLE CLOTHING ONLY**

Events will include:
– Clothing Swap
– Fashion Show
– Hair & Makeup (for purchase)
– Professional Photos Provided by Size Matters Photography
– Food & Beverages (for purchase)
– Live DJ

Bullied for Being Fat? More like “The Fat Bully”


So it seems like all I hear about with teens these days (besides childhood obesity) is bullying. I always wonder to myself, “I was fat in high school, why don’t I feel like I was bullied.” I soon realized the answer: I was the bully.

Middle school was hard – I was bullied, but not for being fat. I was made fun of for having my own style. (Having pink hair at the age of 12 isn’t exactly traditional). I dressed “goth,” so some people spread rumors that I was smoking crack in 7th grade. Even though I wasn’t being harassed about my body, I was at my most insecure state in my life. I was too embarrassed to eat in the lunchroom because I didn’t want my boyfriend to see hos fat girlfriend eating…. anything. I would go hungry and then binge and purge. Though these internal behaviors were horribly unhealthy, I believe that the fact that people cared enough to make up these ridiculous stories, rather than bully me for being fat, helped me build my confidence for the future.

That future confidence took a while to set in. As puberty went on, I started cutting myself, smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol… anything to overshadow the fact that I was fat. I would have rather been viewed as a bad-ass than “the fat girl,” and it worked.

High school was freakin’ fantastic! Well, somewhat. I had a lot of friends, who were all fat chicks too (or felt fat). We would joke about being fat, share our fat girl problems, share clothes, it was fabulous. Having “Fatourage” (OK, I made that up) definitely was the key to building my self-confidence. Problem is – I built up a bit too much  and became a real bitch.

To the few haters our clique had, rather than letting them get me down, I would use my strength and intimidation to avoid being bullied. When the local punk rock band came out with a song called ‘Fat Chicks Suck’ that went viral, what did I do? I punched the kid in the face. What did he do? Made a website about me and how fat and annoying I am. All I could do was laugh, thinking, “Dumbass, I punched you in the fucking face. Who won this battle?”

That wasn’t the only time I used my size to intimidate others. On another occassion, a boy and his friends were yelling fat-insults to my best friend (why not me???) so what did I do? Caught him off-guard and put him in a choke hold in the stairwell, and explained to him that he had no idea what was coming to him if he kept fucking with us. Lets just say I didn’t hear a peep from him again.

So those are examples of what I would call “Defensive Bullying.” But in order to keep up my bad-ass reputation, I couldn’t just bully back. I had to pay it forward too. This wasn’t easy, considering I was the fattest girl in school. I look back now and think of some horrible things I did to people just to feel better about myself.

Here are my examples of my “Offensive Bullying

  • The only big girl not in our entourage was made fun of by the whole school. I would pretend to be her friend to get private dirt on her and spread it to the rest of the school. She told me she wore a size 18 and we made a huge deal about her size, while in the mean time, I was a size 22!

  • I broke up with a boy at school, and every time my friends and I saw him, we would call him “Goat” because of his beard and make Goat noises…. ok a litle funny but still mean.

  • We got mad at a member of our clique, hacked her MySpace, and replaced all of her photos with pictures of Mr. Ed (the talking horse) because she was made fun of for her teeth. How horrible is that?

I could go on and on, but I think those three are enough to show what an insecure bitch I was. Due to some personal troubles (totally unrelated to bulling), I ended up leaving school my junior year, started a career, and graduated early from night school. I work in the Human Service field, and have been since I was 17. Now my life is spent improving the lives of others rather than trying to ruin them. I think that removing myself from the “group mentality” by leaving school was a turning point, but it wasn’t until I was about 20 that I realized in order to be completely free from my ignorant, angry past, was to let go of my cohorts and star over, on my own.

Now I am a strong advocate for disabilities, mental illness, obesity, bullying, racism, and pretty much anything related to human rights. Bully turned Humanitarian. Who would’a thought?

Work hard, Play hard? Yeah, right.


Hey Curvy Girls!

So I am at work thinking , “…should I go all the way to NYC for this audition tonight?” Or “should I bother with that photoshoot tomorrow?”

But at the same time, I’m asking myself, “why am I here at work instead of out doing what I love?” Good Question. Reason is – I am doing a buttload of money trying to break not the business. Let me break it down for you:

I had a horrible experience on a go-see for a model gig the other day. Once I made it to Manhattan, the only place I was allowed to park were  princely lots, so I spent the damn $30 to park because traffic had me running a whole hour late. Once I got there, she looked at my photos, resume, and measurements, and without saying a word, handed me pack my packet and told me I was too big for their line. Normally, I think, “eh, no biggie,” but this time, after all the trouble I went through, I broke down and cried out of frustration. Not because she said I was too fat, but because I had spent so much of my hard earned money and hard to come by free time on nothing.

Because of my anxiety, and the fact that I love so close to the city ( in NJ) I choose not to take the train or bus, but the cost isn’t much different. Currently with the number of auditions and bookings I get in NYC here is a breakdown of my modeling and acting related expenses:

  • Toll to NYC: $14 x (approx) 3 days per week: $42
  • Gas: $20 x (approx) 4 days per week: $80
  • Parking: Up to $30
  • Total Weekly Expenses to go on auditions and modeling gigs = roughly $150.

Of course, however, this does not include the cost of headshots and Comp Cards, event tickets, etc… So how is one supposed to become a model or actress and not live the starting artist” lifestyle? Not to mention the fact that in the last few months I have barely been home between work and auditions, and now it’s coming to a point where I must choose between my work and my play. I may not believe in a higher power, but if I am meant to be something big, it will happen soon. If not, then I guess it will be time to let go of my favorite hobby. Isn’t it a shame I can’t have my cake and eat it too??

Keep Curvy and Stay Curious

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